How can I teach my child good behavior and avoid the embarrassment she triggers around people?
The answer is quite simple. Continue reading to learn the important steps that will help you teach your children good manners, as well as the actions and notions that you need to avoid to be successful parents.
10 Successful Steps to Teach Your Child Good Behavior
9- Be patient.
Step 1: Be a Good Example.
Remember that your child’s behavior is a reflection of yours. You are a mirror when doing any action, so if you wish to implement positive actions, do them yourself. It is obvious that if you are going to throw your trash out of the car window, your child will do the same. If you curse in front of people, your child will use the same words when expressing anger. On the other hand, if you continuously express kindness and clean up after your mess, your child will absolutely do the same.
You are a major part of your child’s personality as she sees you as her role model.
Step 2: Set Clear Rules.
Let your child be clear of your house rules. Set rules for making the bed, putting toys away, eating healthy, brushing teeth, and other chores you wish to be completed. Furthermore, give your child quiet time that allows her to be calm and explain to her that being calm is recommended when there are people around.
Setting clear rules is essential in child-rearing. How do you expect your child to follow rules at school when she is allowed to do whatever she wants at home?
Step 3: Be Consistent.
Do not change your attitudes or opinions about the rules you had set. No matter how much your child wishes to break them, make sure you don’t respond to her needs. Otherwise, you will lose credibility, and she will never take you seriously.
Just like school rules, your rules at home are not meant to be broken.
Step 4: Correct Misbehavior.
Correct your child’s misbehavior after she does them, but make sure not to lose your temper. Wait until you calm down and choose your words. As parents, we do not want our children to fear us, rather we want them to gain our respect. Moreover, raising your voice diminishes your power as a parent and your child will not take you seriously.
Remember that the lower your voice, the higher is your impression.
Step 5: Communicate With Your Spouse.
Always agree with your spouse on the rules you set at home so that s/he can be on the same page. When you set rules, you aim to be consistent and credible, and you don’t want your child to be lost.
Your spouse also plays a crucial role in shaping your child’s personality, so keep him/her aware of your child-rearing strategies.
Step 6: Read to Your Child Meaningful Stories.
Tell your child stories with valuable lessons related to good behavior. This way, she will make connections with characters that she loves.
Characters in storybooks have always influenced children, so choose stories with characters that you wish your child to imitate.
Step 7: Resort to Pretend Play.
Roleplay helps you demonstrate to your children positive behavior directly. By assigning them roles, you will have them act out good manners and smart behavior. This will not only teach them discipline but will also trigger their imagination and enhance their cognitive abilities.
Pretend play is a healthy and fun activity you can practice with your child. It will train her mind to follow rules and manifest positive manners.
Step 8: Praise Good Behavior.
Do not forget to praise your child’s good behavior. When you tell her, “I am proud of you; you are a wonderful child!” you will encourage her to repeat the good behavior.
It is not only important to correct misbehavior, but praising good behavior is the key to positive parenting.
Step 9: Be Patient.
Being a parent means being patient. I don’t know how much I need to emphasize this. You cannot pressure your child to follow rules immediately after you set them. Give her time to adjust to the new way of life. Furthermore, children forget. You are obliged to keep repeating yourself and reminding your child to act well.
Overreacting is your enemy. Take a deep breath and correct your child’s behavior when you’re calm.
Step 10: Do Not Tell Your Child that She Is Bad.
Choose your words. Remember to tell your child that her behavior was bad. Refrain from using the notions “bad kid” and depress your child.
Children are born into this world as blank sheets of papers. You can draw and reshape them as you want.
Teaching your child good manners requires patience and positivity. Always remember that you are a role model to your child, set clear rules, be consistent, correct misbehavior, praise good behavior, play with your child, and choose your words.
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